Raising Disciplined Children - Jane Ikegulu

Raising Disciplined Children By Jane Ikegulu

A lot of indiscipline appears to be rampant these days, acts that are disgusting and embarrassing are displayed especially amongst the youths. It makes one wonder if parents still see parenting as their responsibility or is it the duty of the school?

Beloved parents, what sort of child are you raising? Are you raising an individual that would see punctuality as the essence of life or one that would be non-chalant about it? Would your child as an adult see call to duty as self-less service to humanity or would it be a means to enrich himself? Are you raising a child that would be a tyrant, one who would emotionally and physically batter the lives of his wife and children? Would your child grow to be an organized individual one who knows the importance of prioritizing? Whatever you aspire your child to be in future, begin now to direct him or her towards that path.

Parenting goes beyond the science of copulating and birthing babies. That explains why some parents abandon their children.

It is a tasky venture, one which requires constant supervision, patience, love, wisdom, vigilance, strength and emotional balance. No child is born with its mind filled with a sense of purpose, direction and knowledge, it takes parenting to fill it up. No wonder a baby’s brain is often referred to, as being a tabula rasa.

A child is foremostly influenced by the home, under normal circumstances, one which is managed by adults. Unfortunately, in recent times, children are negatively influenced by those who should be parenting them. Often times, parents shy away from disciplining their children by indulging in them for fear of being labelled harsh or abusive. They forget that had they not been thoroughly raised by their own parents, there would be no luxuries to offer their children. Parents, should live up to their responsibility, they should stop acting as their children’s buddies by treating them as equals. In reality, there is nothing equal about a ten year old and a thirty year old. In the words of Zig Ziglar, the author of Raising Positive Kids In A Negative World, the obvious question is: if you become a pal to your child, when the need arises for you to discipline, instruct or require certain conduct and performance from your child, why should he obey a pal’s orders? After all, you are equal.

What then is discipline? According to Longman Advanced Learner’s Dictionary, discipline means a way of training someone so that they learn to control their behaviour and obey rules. Unfortunately, the word discipline is often misconstrued to mean punishment or something done for a child while punishment is often done to a child. As such, values should be inculcated in children, one of such is respect. This should be enforced at home, children should be taught respect for constituted authority, respect for their creator, respect for elders, respect for the laws of the land, respect for an individual’s privacy, respect for property as well as respect for rules and regulations. Parents can make this effective by teaching them how to pray to the Supreme Being and as much as possible they too should be seen praying by their children. This is because when parents honour God, their children will certainly honour them.

Another important value that should be taught is humility. Most parents get carried away by their success in life and talk brashly to their subordinates at work, their domestic staff and their neighbours while their children sit by the corner and absorb this offensive act of arrogance. Parents should teach their children the four magical words: “please”, “I am sorry”, “Excuse me” and “Thank you”. They should also be encouraged to use them regularly. They should be made to know that being successful is a privilege and as such does not demand one having airs. Parents should as much as possible treat every human being well and not shabbily, they should instill the act of exchanging greetings in their children. One key thing to note is that the motto most children observe is “Do as I do and not do as I say”.

Parents, teach your children to be organized, commence this training when they are still toddlers. Children should be told to put away their toys in a box after playing instead of littering them all over the place. As they mature and become junior school students, they should be taught how to get themselves prepared for school the next day. For instance, note books for the following day should be sorted out in the evening with the subject time table and on the eve of tests or examinations the child should be encouraged to have functional writing materials.

Don’t forget to tutor your child to be independent. Most parents often deceive their children when they say to them “I will always be there for you”. Let’s be realistic, what if something tragic happens to you tomorrow? In as much as we don’t pray for such, we should train our children to be street savvy.

The question now is, when can training a child to be disciplined commence? As early as six months, don’t wait till your child is three or six years.

Beloved parents, let’s raise disciplined children who would one day become disciplined leaders.

Jane Ikegulu
An English Educator writes from Lagos
08034786925 (SMS ONLY)

Source: Tv360nigeria

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